Dealing with anxiety is in one word, exhausting. It has a way of making you feel insecure and seemingly alone. As I mentioned in one of my previous posts, I’ve been struggling with anxiety since I was 15 years-old. This month, I’m going to be turning 24. Although I am discovering the root of my anxiety as time goes by, it is still a battle I face on a daily basis.
Something that has been hard for me lately is staying motivated, especially if my anxiety is really bad that day. I’ll have this need to stay in the house or isolate myself from other people. My mind races and I start to think about all of the things that other people are doing. It’s so easy for me to criticize myself. Well, why aren’t you getting promoted? When will you buy a house? You aren’t good enough.
And then, eventually I’ll start thinking about my writing. “I don’t think I’ll ever be a writer. What if I’m just wasting my time?” I hear myself telling my boyfriend as tears run down my cheeks. Complete panic sets in, to the point where I even start to hate the fact that I love writing so much. Those days, I typically tend to shut myself off from my blog or YouTube channel completely. I don’t want to write when I’m in that kind of headspace.
Or there are times when I literally can’t write because my head feels cloudy. I can feel my heart beating in my chest, my hands are shaking, and I can’t focus.
People are struggling alone everyday and we as a society don’t openly discuss the importance of mental health enough.
I wanted to share some small daily self-care tips that have been helping me. Remember, if you are struggling, please talk to your doctor or a mental health professional. These acts of self-care are just some things that personally keep me motivated and make the tougher days a little easier.
- Before bed or when you wake up, drink warm milk or chamomile. Morning or night-time anxiety can be especially debilitating. Chamomile particularly has a calming effect and I’ve noticed that it has really helped when I wake up in a panic and have a busy day ahead.
- Take a shower in the morning and a soothing bubble bath at night. Anxiety comes with many physical symptoms and can make your muscles feel tense. A hot shower in the morning will help your muscles relax. After a long day, a soothing bath also calms the body and mind.
- Eat fruits and veggies. A change in diet can work wonders. Taking care of your physical health through eating the right foods is extremely vital in managing anxiety.
- Take a walk in a scenic part of your neighborhood. Whenever my anxiety becomes too much, I take a break from whatever I’m doing and go for a walk. Finding the motivation is challenging, but some exercise and fresh air eases anxiety.
- Listen to calming music. Music has always been a healer for me. I like to just put on my headphones, close my eyes, and get lost in my favorite songs.
- Tidy up your apartment/house. Making my bed in the morning and washing dishes almost always helps. Tidying up is cathartic and if my apartment is clean, it’s easier for me to get things done.
- Talk to someone you trust. You don’t have to be alone in this. Talk to your partner, parent, friend, teacher, etc. and let them know how you’re feeling.
- Reward yourself. Remember that it’s easy to criticize what you haven’t done but what about rewarding yourself for what you have done? Even if it’s a small accomplishment, it matters. Get yourself those shoes you’ve been wanting or treat yourself to your favorite dessert.
I hope that this helps anyone who is affected by anxiety. This topic is extremely personal and important to me. One of my biggest goals in life is to raise awareness for mental health. If you’re reading this and battling anxiety or mental illness in general, just know that you’re brave. And you are good enough. <3
Thanks for listening. See you soon. xoxo